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Dawn Burns's avatar

Thanks for this entire reflection, Charlie! Your insights cast a slant of light across a lifelong conundrum that I can't help but keep at the forefront of my teaching, my creative life, and my relationships...or try to. I keep working at it--it's all I know to do--imperfect though my attempts may be.

I keep coming back to this:

"When we believe our reality is reliable and our neighbor’s is not, we’re likely to end up at epistemic closure....This is where the door of communication shuts, and competing realities can no longer engage in dialogue (unless the individuals involved are inquisitive, respectful, empathetic, and willing to keep knocking and talking)."

"When we believe our reality is reliable and our neighbor's is not...the door of communication shuts."

While there may not always be a way to open a shut door, I find I can't stop wanting communication, a door cautiously opened just a crack by curiosity that invites us to to lean in and listen, to experience a spark of wonder in another person. The simple question, "What's it like in your world?" is all we need to start, yet what a dangerous question that is when we feel so protective or our own constructed and fought for realities.

I think of pieces I've been impacted by and have sometimes had conversations about with my students that continue to inform how I live. Fran Peavey's "Us and Them." Chimamanda Adichie's "The Danger of a Single Story." Celeste Headlee's "10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation." J.R. Jamison's memoir "Hillbilly Queer" and his wonderful community building work through The Facing Project.

I think, too of Thomas Merton and his experience in Louisville, recognizing "that we could not be alien to one another even though we were total strangers" and the yearning I feel every time I read the sentence, "There is no way of telling people that they are all walking around shining like the sun."

Yet we are all, each of us, all the time, "walking around shining like the sun."

Thanks for your added perspective, and for framing with language that helps me better understand this present moment while working, always, for ways to build community, keep the doors open when I can.

Mark Ogle's avatar

Sadly we have replaced evangelism with Christian nationalism. Instead of telling the good news of Christ, we are supporting movements and political agendas that speak of Christ in a positive manner but don't offer hope or salvation. If you look at the history of nationalism it never ends well. Especially for those that follow Christ.

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